Reverse Cowgirl
Let’s face it, sometimes, it’s fun to flip the script in the bedroom. If you’re the type who likes to be in control, enjoys a good view, or just fancies mixing up your usual routine, then reverse cowgirl might just be your next go-to position. This playful twist on the traditional cowgirl position puts the rider in charge, but with a fresh perspective... literally.
Reverse cowgirl is one of those positions that brings out a bit of wild energy. It’s confident, powerful, a little bit cheeky, and wildly erotic when done right. But it’s also surprisingly practical, giving you loads of control over rhythm and depth while offering different angles of stimulation. So whether you’re brand new to riding or just want to refresh your skills, this guide will walk (or gallop) you through all the ins and outs plus a few ways to make it even better.
What is Reverse Cowgirl?
Reverse cowgirl is a sex position where the receiving partner sits on top, straddling their partner, but instead of facing their partner’s face, they turn around so they’re facing the feet. Imagine cowgirl turned around 180 degrees same concept, totally different vibe.
This switch in orientation creates a distinct kind of intimacy. You’re not making eye contact, but that doesn’t make it any less intense. In fact, it often heightens the physical focus. The partner on top has a full view of their partner’s body beneath them and can ride at their own pace, using their hips, legs, or core to control the movement. The partner on the bottom? They get a full view of the rider’s back, bum, and all those glorious curves and movements that make this position so visually stimulating.
This position can be done with a penis, a strap on, or a dildo it’s totally inclusive and adaptable. You don’t need to be acrobatic to pull it off either. With a bit of communication and rhythm, anyone can get into the swing of reverse cowgirl and make it work to their advantage.
How to Do Reverse Cowgirl
First things first, comfort is key. This position puts the rider in full control, which means you want to feel stable, supported, and in a posture that lets you move freely. Start with your partner lying flat on their back, ideally on a bed or cushioned surface. They should keep their legs relaxed or slightly spread to give you room to straddle their hips.
Climb on top and turn yourself around so you’re facing their feet. Some folks find it easiest to start by kneeling upright with your thighs on either side of their hips. Once you’re in position, gently lower yourself down onto the penis or strap-on, using your hands to steady yourself on their thighs, the bed, or even your own knees. Take your time with the entry, this angle can feel quite different, and a slow, controlled descent helps you find what feels good.
When you’re fully seated, start experimenting with movement. You might enjoy bouncing, grinding in circles, or tilting your hips back and forth. The beauty of reverse cowgirl is that you’re in the driver’s seat, you set the pace, the depth, and the intensity. Don’t be afraid to pause, adjust, or try different motions. Leaning forward changes the angle of penetration and can stimulate different internal zones like the G-spot. Sitting upright gives more control and visual drama.
And don’t skip the lube! A generous amount of water based or silicone based lubricant makes everything feel smoother, especially since the angle in reverse cowgirl can create a bit more friction than usual. Water-based lube is safe for all toys and easy to clean, while silicone based lube lasts longer ideal if you’re planning a long session or using condoms.
Speaking of which, condoms are a must if you’re not fluid-bonded or using shared toys. They’re your best protection against STIs and unintended pregnancies, plus they make toy clean-up quicker.
Why Reverse Cowgirl?
Why not, really?
Reverse cowgirl offers a whole host of benefits that make it a bedroom staple for many. For starters, it gives the rider complete control over how things play out. You can dictate the rhythm, fast, slow, deep, shallow and adjust everything to suit your mood or your anatomy.
This can make reverse cowgirl especially empowering for people who want to take charge without needing to look their partner in the eye the whole time.
It’s also a position that creates unique sensations. Because you’re approaching from a different angle, the penetration feels different. It can hit internal hotspots that aren’t as easily accessed in missionary or doggy style.
Leaning forward, for instance, can create more pressure on the G-spot, while grinding motions can bring the clitoris into contact with your partner’s pelvis or a strategically placed toy.
From the receiving partner’s perspective, reverse cowgirl is an absolute feast for the eyes. Watching someone ride you while facing away, with their back arching and bum bouncing, it’s undeniably erotic. It adds a layer of visual excitement that amps up the experience.
It’s also a great go-to for couples who want a mix of dominance and distance. There’s space for fantasy here: the anonymity of the position can add mystery and thrill, while still being intimate in its own way. Whether you're feeling shy or sassy, reverse cowgirl has your back.
Straddle and Ride Cowgirl!
Reverse cowgirl isn’t just a flashy trick to pull out on special occasions, it’s a versatile, confidence-boosting, toe-curling position that deserves a spot in your go-to list. With the right mood, some slick lube, and a trusty condom, it’s a wild and wonderful ride you’ll both be eager to repeat.
So next time you hop in the saddle, don’t be afraid to turn things around. Let your hair down, throw a wink over your shoulder, and show your partner exactly what you’ve got. Giddy up, baby, it’s time to ride.
