Spooning
You know that lovely, lazy cuddle you fall into when you’re tucked up in bed with your partner? You’re both lying on your sides, facing the same direction, one person curled into the other like a pair of nesting spoons? That’s the classic spooning cuddle.
Now imagine that deliciously intimate position... but add in some cheeky pelvic grinding, deep connection, and a touch of lube. That, friends, is spooning sex.
In this position, the partner doing the penetrating lies behind the receiving partner, entering them from the back while both stay on their sides. It’s a kind of sideways version of doggy style, but with a whole lot more snuggling.
But don’t let the chilled-out nature fool you, it’s not just for lazy Sundays or sleepy sex. Spooning sex is deeply intimate, very sensual, and surprisingly versatile. It works beautifully for everyone and body types, and can range from slow and sweet to downright dirty, depending on your mood.
Whether you’re brand new to this position or you’ve been doing it for years without realising it had a name, it’s a cosy little gem that deserves a permanent spot in your bedroom menu.
How to Have Sex While Spooning
Alright, let’s get into the nitty-gritty. How do you actually do spooning sex?
Spooning might look simple, but there are a few little tips and tricks that can make it go from ‘just okay’ to ‘oh-my-god-yes’. Here’s how to get it right:
1. Start with a Cuddle
Get into a classic spooning cuddle. The receiving partner lies on their side, back facing the other person. The giving partner then curls around them, matching their body shape. You should be comfortably aligned from head to toe, think full-body contact, not just a cheeky bum squeeze.
2. Line Up for Entry
This is the bit where things get interesting. The giving partner should scoot their hips right up behind the receiving partner until their pelvises are closely aligned. Entry can be a little fiddly at first, it’s not always easy to see what’s going on from that angle. So go slow, be patient, and don’t forget the lube.
Top tip: Apply a generous amount of lube to both the penis and the entrance. Whether you’re using water based or silicone based lubricant, it’s essential for smooth sliding, especially since visibility and angle aren’t as straightforward as with other positions.
Read more: Guide to Lubrication
3. Slide in Gently
Once you’re aligned, penetration can happen. It may require a little adjustment, perhaps lifting a leg slightly or shifting hips but once you’re in, things tend to flow pretty naturally. Because of the angle, the penetration is typically deep and can hit different pleasure spots than other positions.
You can keep things soft and sensual, or slowly build up to more rhythmic thrusting, whatever feels good for both of you. The key is to listen to your bodies and move in sync.
4. Hands, Mouth and Hips - Use Them All
One of the perks of this position is that your hands are totally free. The giving partner can stroke the receiving partner’s breasts, play with their nipples, stimulate their clit or penis, run fingers along their inner thighs, or even tease their neck and ears. The receiving partner can also reach between their legs or back behind them to touch their partner.
Spooning is basically an invitation to get creative with your foreplay mid-thrust. Who says you can’t multitask?
5. Enjoy the Rhythm and Closeness
Spooning encourages slower, more sensual thrusts rather than fast, pounding movements. You’re pressed close together, breathing each other in, moving as one. It’s like slow dancing with your genitals.
And because your bodies are so tightly entwined, it’s a perfect opportunity for whispering dirty talk, soft moans, or sweet nothings. Trust us, words feel way more intense when they’re murmured against your neck.
6. Aftercare, Right There
Spooning sex naturally flows into post-sex cuddles. There’s no need to shift or change positions you’re already perfectly placed for a gentle wind-down, which can be just as intimate and fulfilling as the act itself.
Why Spooning Sex?
Now that you know how to do it, let’s talk about why so many people swear by this position. Spooning sex might not be the most acrobatic or wild, but it does have a special kind of magic.
1. Emotional Intimacy
Spooning sex is about more than just physical pleasure, it’s about connection. You’re completely wrapped up in each other, literally and figuratively. It’s the kind of sex that makes you feel close, cared for, and connected. Perfect for couples who want to deepen their emotional bond while still getting their sexy on.
2. Gentle and Comfortable
Because you’re lying down and not supporting much weight, spooning is a very accessible position. It’s great if one or both partners are dealing with injuries, fatigue, or simply want a less physically demanding option. And because it’s low-pressure (literally), it’s ideal for people who prefer slow, steady stimulation.
3. Deep, angled penetration
Even though it’s a relaxed position, spooning can offer surprisingly deep penetration. The curved angle of entry means you can stimulate different internal pleasure points like the G-spot.
4. A Lazy Lover's Dream
Sometimes you just don’t want to flip into downward dog or straddle someone like a rodeo star. Spooning lets you stay horizontal, warm, and comfy while still having a deeply pleasurable experience. It’s basically the brunch of sex positions: indulgent, cosy, and best served slow.
5. Perfect for Morning Sex
You wake up, still half-asleep, bodies entwined, an awful stench coming from your partner's mouth and there’s that soft, delicious grind starting up from behind… spooning sex was made for morning wood and sleepy moans. You barely need to open your eyes to get going.
How to Spice Up Spooning Sex
While spooning is naturally intimate and sensual, it doesn’t have to be vanilla. There are plenty of ways to heat things up when you want to add a bit of kink or flair. Here’s how to go from “aww” to “ooh!”:
1. Lift a Leg
Encourage the receiving partner to lift their top leg slightly or rest it over a pillow. This opens up the pelvis and changes the angle of penetration, often making the sensations more intense. It also gives easier access to the clit, penis, or perineum for extra stimulation.
2. Introduce a toy (or two)
A bullet vibrator, a slim wand, or even a wearable toy can seriously elevate your spooning game. Because you’re pressed so closely together, any vibrations will ripple through both of you. Try placing a vibe between your bodies, against the receiving partner’s clit or penis for delicious added stimulation.
Just make sure whatever you’re using is compact and comfortable—bulky toys can be a bit awkward in such a tight embrace.
3. Whisper Fantasies
There’s something inherently sexy about being so close that you can whisper directly into your partner’s ear. This is prime time for dirty talk, fantasy sharing, or even gentle encouragement. Words feel electric in this position so don’t hold back.
4. Try Restraints or Blindfolds
Spooning is a great base for light bondage. Soft wrist ties or silky restraints can keep the receiving partner’s hands in place, while a blindfold heightens their other senses. The giving partner stays in control, adding a layer of playful dominance and submission.
As always, consent and communication are key when adding kink to your play. Safe, sane, and sexy, please!
5. Edge it Out
Spooning sex is perfect for edging, that delicious build-up where you bring your partner right to the brink of orgasm and then ease off, again and again. The close proximity makes it easy to control the pace and intensity, creating a slow burn that ends in explosive release.
Spooned and Satisfied
Spooning sex is like the comfort food of the bedroom, warm, familiar, satisfying, and endlessly customisable. Whether you’re in the mood for a loving, slow session or you want to turn your cuddle into something a bit naughtier, this position has you covered.
It’s especially brilliant for long-term couples, new lovers still exploring each other’s bodies, or anyone who just wants to feel close while getting off. And the best part? You don’t even have to roll over when it’s done.
So go on grab the lube, light a candle, and get your spoon on. Your sheets (and your partner) will thank you.
