Skins' Ultimate Guide to Safe Sex
Let’s talk about safe sex—openly, honestly, and with a touch of humor (because who said this stuff has to be awkward?).
Speaking frankly: talking about safe sex doesn’t always come naturally to everyone. But here’s the thing—it really should. After all, what could be more important than protecting your health, fostering trust with your partner, and keeping your love life as fun as it can possibly be?
A lot of us may have grown up acting all silly with condoms and recall the moments we would botch up unrolling a rubber on a banana in a Sex Ed. class at school. However, recent data suggests that in the UK alone, sexually transmitted infections (STIs) increased in 2023 in comparison to 2022 (Source: UK Health Security Agency).
Why is Safe Sex So Important?
Safe sex is about more than avoiding an unplanned baby or a surprise STI diagnosis. It’s the cornerstone of a healthy and enjoyable sex life. When you know you’re protected, you can relax, have fun, and focus on what really matters: enjoying the moment with your partner.
Here’s the deal: skipping protection might seem easier in the heat of the moment, but the risks can haunt you long after the fun is over. We’re talking unplanned pregnancies, sexually transmitted infections, and let’s face it… even the emotional stress that comes from not knowing if you’ve made a risky decision.
Being clued up and taking precautions isn’t just the smart thing to do, it’s a way of showing love and respect for yourself and your partner. And let’s be real, nothing kills the mood faster than thinking, “What if...?”
Condoms: Your Ultimate Wingman
Alright, let’s talk about condoms — those little latex lifesavers that deserve a standing ovation in the bedroom (but, like, not literally). Condoms are essentially the Swiss Army knife of safe sex. Protection against STIs? Check. Unplanned pregnancy? Nope, not today. Plus, they’re basically superheroes in a tiny, discreet package. If they had capes, they’d probably double as dental dams.
Let’s address the elephant in room, some believe that putting on a condom is a buzzkill — it’s actually foreplay with a purpose.
Mastering the one-handed unroll could even win you some applause in bedroom. Seriously, it’s all about attitude. Who doesn’t love someone who cares enough to play it safe?
We understand that many people would rather not use condoms. However, in today's world, they are very important. They provide essential protection against pregnancies and STIs.
Discover our Beginner's Guide to Condoms to learn more.
Pro Tips for Maximum Protection
- If you want to feel closer to your partner, don't go without a skin... why not try one of our Ultra Thin condoms for a still feels as natural as it can get.
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Always check the expiry date: A condom past its prime is about as reliable as a paper umbrella in a storm.
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Store them properly: Heat and friction can weaken the material, so keep your condoms in a cool, dry place—not in your wallet or back pocket.
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Use lube: Water-based or silicone-based lubricants reduce the risk of breakage and add comfort to the experience. Avoid oil-based lubricants, as they can weaken latex.
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One is enough: Doubling up on condoms might seem like extra protection, but it’s actually a recipe for disaster, as the friction can cause them to tear.
Think of condoms as your trusty sidekick: always there when you need them, saving the day one encounter at a time.
Across the UK, there tends to be a stigma when it comes to condom usage but at Skins Sexual Health we constantly strive to "change the perception of contraception".
Read more: Why is it important to use a condom during sex?
Read more: Myths about Condoms
Read more: Which condoms do I need?
Read more: Frequently Asked Questions about condoms
Double Down with Other Contraceptions
While condoms are fantastic, pairing them with another form of contraception creates a double layer of protection—perfect for peace of mind.
The Pill
The combined oral contraceptive pill is one of the most popular methods for preventing pregnancy. It’s highly effective when taken correctly and has the added benefit of regulating periods and reducing menstrual cramps. However, it doesn’t protect against STIs, so it’s best paired with a condom.
Long-Acting Reversible Contraception (LARC)
If you prefer a “set it and forget it” approach, consider options like IUDs (intrauterine devices) or implants. These are inserted by a healthcare provider and can last anywhere from three to ten years, depending on the type.
Emergency Contraception
If your usual method fails—say, the condom breaks—emergency contraception (like the morning-after pill) can be a lifesaver. While it’s effective at preventing pregnancy after unprotected sex, it’s not a substitute for regular contraceptive methods.
The Importance of Choice
Choosing the right contraceptive is a personal decision that depends on your body, lifestyle, and preferences. Chat with your GP or sexual health clinic to find the method that works best for you.
Regular STI Testing: Because Knowledge is Sexy
If you’re sexually active, getting tested for STIs should be as routine as your annual check-up or car MOT. Many STIs don’t show symptoms, so the only way to know for sure if you’re in the clear is to get tested.
When to Get Tested
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Before starting a new relationship or sleeping with a new partner.
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If you or your partner have multiple partners.
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If you experience unusual symptoms, like pain during sex, unusual discharge, or sores.
Testing is quick, confidential, and often free at NHS sexual health clinics. Plus, there’s no better way to say, “I care about us,” than making sure you’re both healthy.
Talk Dirty (and Safe)
Let’s face it, no one looks forward to the “safe sex” conversation. But here’s a secret, it doesn’t have to be awkward. A little honesty goes a long way in creating trust and ensuring a positive experience for both of you.
How to Start the Conversation
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“Hey, before we get too carried away, let’s talk about protection. Have you been tested recently?”
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“I prefer using condoms—how do you feel about that?”
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“I want us to enjoy this, and being safe makes it even better.”
Being upfront about your expectations and boundaries isn’t just responsible; it’s incredibly attractive.
Safe Sex Beyond the Usual Suspects
Protection isn’t just for vaginal sex. Oral sex can also transmit STIs, so it’s essential to take precautions for safer sex.
Oral sex might seem like the chilled-out sibling of the main event, but don’t be fooled—it’s still part of the STI party, and chlamydia, gonorrhoea, herpes, and HPV are all on the guest list if you’re not careful. Not exactly the souvenirs you want from a fun night, are they?
Using dental dams or flavoured condoms can make oral sex both safer and more enjoyable. Yes, they’re a thing, and no, they don’t taste like regret. They act as a barrier, reducing the risk of infections like herpes, syphilis, and gonorrhoea.
In fact, they come in mouth-watering flavours like strawberry, mint, bubblegum, banana and even chocolate. Think of them as the Michelin star garnish to your saucy activities.
Don't just take our word for it. Try our Flavoured Condom Variety Pack. Who knows... you might even find your new favourite!
Surprising UK STI 2023 Facts (vs. 2022)
(Source: UK Health Security Agency)
- Over 401k diagnoses of new STIs saw an 4.7% increase
- Gonorrhoea diagnoses grew 7.5%
- An increase of 9.4% was recorded in infectious syphilis diagnoses
- There was a larger proportional increase in syphilis diagnoses among heterosexual men and women (21.8%) than among gay, bisexual and other men who have sex with men
Remember, no contraceptive can guarantee 100% protection against pregnancy, HIV or sexually transmitted infections.
