Guide to Squirting
Squirting, often called female ejaculation (which isn't the case) is one of the most misunderstood aspects of sexual pleasure. Despite growing visibility in sexual wellness conversations, it’s still surrounded by myths, confusion, and unrealistic portrayals. This guide aims to offer clear, practical information to help you understand what squirting is, why it happens, and how you can explore it if you’re curious.
Squirting is a natural response some people experience during intense sexual arousal or stimulation, often involving the G-spot stimulation. It’s not a marker of better sex or deeper orgasms, just one of many ways the body may react. Whether you’ve experienced it before or want to explore it for the first time, this guide is for you.
What is Squirting?
Squirting is a term used to describe the release of fluid from the genitals during sexual arousal or stimulation, typically from people with vulvas. While often associated with orgasm, squirting doesn’t always happen at the moment of climax, and not everyone who experiences it will have an orgasm at the same time, or at all. It’s a bodily response that varies hugely from person to person.
Key Points:
- Squirting is not the same as urination, though the fluid exits via the urethra and can contain some urine.
- It often involves intense G-spot stimulation, but not always.
- It can happen before, during, or without orgasm.
- It's completely normal and safe.
Let’s unpack some of the common misunderstandings around squirting and explore what it actually involves.
The Science Behind It
Physiologically, squirting involves the release of a clear or slightly milky fluid, usually from the Skene’s glands also referred to as the female prostate located near the urethra. These glands fill with fluid during arousal and, under certain conditions, can release it through the urethra. Because the fluid exits from the same place as urine, there’s been long-standing debate about whether squirting is just a form of accidental urination. However, research suggests that while small traces of urea (a compound found in urine) might be present, the consistency and composition of squirting fluid is distinct.
Some people describe the sensation of squirting as a pressure that builds up, followed by a release that can feel deeply satisfying, even euphoric. For others, the feeling is more neutral, or even surprising.
Squirting Vs. Female Ejaculation
These two terms are often used interchangeably, but there is a subtle difference:
- Squirting typically refers to a large volume of clear fluid expelled from the urethra.
- Female ejaculation refers to a thicker, milky substance secreted in small amounts, believed to originate from the Skene's glands.
Some people may experience one, both, or neither. They’re both valid responses and aren’t required for sexual satisfaction.
It's Not Just About the Outcome
One of the most important things to understand about squirting is that it’s not a goal to chase. It’s something that may or may not happen depending on arousal levels, physical stimulation, emotional comfort, and sometimes... sheer chance. Trying to force it or worrying about whether it’ll happen can lead to frustration or performance pressure, which can interfere with your ability to relax and enjoy the moment.
Instead, think of squirting as a possible part of the journey, not the destination. It’s one of many ways the body can respond to pleasure, not a requirement for good sex.
Squirting and Shame
Due to cultural taboos, unrealistic media portrayals, or lack of proper sex education, many people feel confused or embarrassed about squirting. Some worry they’ve wet themselves. Others try to suppress the urge because they’re unsure what’s happening. If you’ve ever experienced a sudden gush of fluid and felt alarmed or unsure... know that you’re not alone, and there’s nothing wrong with your body.
Embracing your sexual responses with curiosity, rather than judgment, can make a big difference. And if you’ve never squirted? That’s just as normal. Every body reacts differently.
Why do Some People Squirt?
Understanding why some people squirt and others don’t is a mix of anatomy, arousal, stimulation technique, emotional state, and even mindset. While there’s no single trigger or guaranteed method to make it happen, there are some clear reasons why it may occur and why it may not. Crucially, it’s not a marker of sexual success or proof of better orgasms, it’s simply one of many possible responses to sexual pleasure.
Common Factors that Contribute to Squirting:
- Stimulation of the G-spot or internal vaginal walls
- Strong pelvic floor engagement or muscle release
- High levels of arousal or prolonged foreplay
- Mental relaxation and emotional safety
- Experience or awareness of bodily sensations
Let’s unpack each of these in more depth.
G-spot Stimulation and Internal Pressure
For many people, squirting is closely linked to stimulation of the G-spot, a spongy, ridged area located a few centimetres inside the vagina on the front vaginal wall. This area is highly sensitive for some, and stimulating it with the right rhythm and pressure can cause a sensation of fullness or urgency that builds over time.
Some describe the sensation leading up to squirting as similar to needing to wee. This is because the G-spot sits close to the urethra and bladder, and the Skene’s glands (believed to produce squirting fluid) are stimulated in this process. Continued stimulation can create enough pressure to release the built-up fluid through the urethra.
Pelvic Floor Muscle Involvement
The pelvic floor muscles play a crucial role in all forms of sexual response. These muscles surround and support the vagina, bladder, and urethra, and they contract rhythmically during orgasm. Strong, toned pelvic floor muscles can intensify orgasms and potentially enhance your ability to squirt by building and releasing pressure in the surrounding area.
Equally, letting go and relaxing these muscles, particularly during moments of intense arousal, may allow for a more noticeable release. In some cases, it’s the involuntary relaxation of these muscles that helps squirting occur.
Arousal and Prolonged Stimulation
Squirting typically doesn’t happen with rushed or surface-level stimulation. It’s more likely to occur during prolonged, consistent, and deep stimulation that allows the body to fully relax and build towards release. This could happen during solo play, partnered sex, or through the use of sex toys such as curved G-spot dildos or pulsators.
High levels of arousal also increase blood flow to the pelvic area, which can make the G-spot more engorged and sensitive. The more turned on someone feels mentally and physically, the more responsive the body is likely to be.
Mental State and Emotional Comfort
Squirting isn’t just a physical experience, it’s also deeply psychological. If someone feels tense, insecure, or distracted, their body is less likely to respond openly. Trust, safety, and relaxation are key components of any pleasurable sexual experience, and they’re especially important for allowing involuntary responses like squirting.
People who feel safe with their partner (or within themselves) may be more able to explore their body without fear or shame. This emotional comfort can reduce the tendency to hold back or “clench”, both of which can inhibit the possibility of squirting.
Awareness and Experience
Sometimes people squirt without realising it especially if they’re unfamiliar with the sensation or have internalised myths that it’s “just wee.” Others may have felt the urge to squirt but held back out of uncertainty or embarrassment.
With time and exploration, people often become more attuned to what their body is capable of. Learning to recognise the signs, understand the triggers, and become comfortable with the sensations can all increase the likelihood of squirting, though again, it’s not guaranteed, and that’s okay.
How to Make Yourself Squirt
While squirting can happen spontaneously for some, many people find it takes intention, practice, and patience. If you're curious about exploring this sensation for yourself, the key is creating the right conditions: physically, emotionally, and mentally to allow your body to respond freely. This isn’t about chasing a specific result, but about discovering what feels good and opening up to new experiences.
Preparation Tips:
- Empty your bladder beforehand
- Lay down a towel or waterproof sheets
- Choose the right lube (water based or silicone based)
- Use fingers or a curved toy for G-spot stimulation
- Relax and give yourself time
Step 1: Set the Mood and Environment
Creating a safe, private, and relaxed environment is essential. Whether you're alone or with a partner, choose a space where you won’t be interrupted or rushed. Scented candles, soft lighting, calming music - anything that helps you unwind can make a big difference.
Many people find they can’t squirt if they’re anxious, tense, or focused too much on the outcome. Try to approach it with curiosity rather than pressure. You’re not trying to “achieve” something, just exploring what your body can do.
Top tip: Lay a towel or waterproof blanket underneath you. Squirting can release a significant amount of fluid, and not having to worry about mess will help you stay present in the moment.
Step 2: Start Slow with External Stimulation
Before diving into internal exploration, begin with external touch. Warm up your body with clitoral stimulation, nipple play, or other areas you enjoy. The goal is to increase arousal gradually. You might find that as you become more turned on, your vaginal walls swell slightly and your G-spot becomes more pronounced and sensitive.
Top tip: Use a good amount of lube. Water based for a natural feel, or silicone based if you want it to last longer without needing to reapply.
Step 3: Explore the G-spot
The G-spot is located a few centimetres inside the vagina, on the front wall. Using one or two fingers (curled slightly in a “come hither” motion) or a G-spot vibrator, apply firm but gentle pressure. You’re not thrusting in and out like penetrative sex — think more of a rhythmic massage.
Focus on:
- Consistent pressure
- Gentle rocking or pulsing motions
- Listening to your body's feedback - if it feels good, keep going
After a while, you may feel an increasing sense of pressure or the need to wee. This is completely normal and a sign you might be close to squirting. Try not to tense up or stop. Breathe deeply and allow your body to release.
Read more: What is a G-spot Vibrator?
Step 4: Let Go of Control
This is often the hardest part. The sensation leading up to squirting can feel intense, unfamiliar, or even a bit alarming, especially if you’re unsure whether it’s actually just urination. But if you’ve emptied your bladder before starting, it’s extremely unlikely to be wee. That feeling of release is part of the process.
The more you can relax your pelvic floor and let the sensation flow, the more likely your body is to respond. Some people find bearing down gently helps, while others naturally squirt through involuntary contractions. There’s no right or wrong.
Signs you may be about to squirt:
- Strong pressure in the pelvis or lower abdomen
- A full-body sense of release building
- Involuntary muslce spasms or trembling
- Sudden gush of warm fluids
Clean Up and Aftercare
If you do squirt, it might be a small dribble or a large gush, both are valid. The amount of fluid varies from person to person and even from one experience to another. You may want to clean up, hydrate, and give yourself a moment to rest. Squirting can be physically and emotionally intense.
Aftercare, whether you're alone or with a partner, is important. Be kind to yourself, reflect on how you feel, and celebrate whatever you experienced, whether or not you squirted.
Can Anyone Squirt?
One of the most common questions surrounding squirting is: Can everyone do it? The short answer is not necessarily, and that’s okay. Squirting is a natural response that some people experience, but it isn’t a universal bodily function, nor should it be viewed as the ultimate goal in sex. Like any sexual response, it varies widely from person to person, and trying to force it can lead to frustration or disappointment.
Important Truths:
- Not everyone has the same anatomy or sensitivity
- Squirting isn't required for sexual satisfaction or orgasm
- Some people never squirt, even with regular practice
- Others may squirt without meaning to or knowing how
- You are not broken if you don't squirt
Let’s look at what influences whether someone is likely to squirt.
Individual Anatomy and Internal Structures
The presence and sensitivity of the Skene’s glands, the structures believed to produce the fluid involved in squirting varies between individuals. Some people may have more developed glands or more responsive urethral sponge tissue, which can increase the likelihood of fluid being released. Others may have less sensitivity in the G-spot area or less engorgement during arousal, making squirting more difficult or unlikely.
This is important because no amount of technique can override anatomical differences. If you’ve tried everything and still haven’t squirted, it may simply be down to how your body is wired not anything you’re doing wrong.
Arousal and Responsiveness
Some people may have the physical capacity to squirt, but their arousal levels, emotional state, or ability to relax don’t allow it to happen. High stress, performance anxiety, or internalised shame about sex or bodily fluids can all play a role in preventing the kind of full-body release that squirting often involves.
Equally, people who are highly responsive to stimulation, emotionally open, and experienced in reading their body’s signals may find it easier to let go and allow squirting to happen.
In short: the mind matters just as much as the body.
Sexual Experiences and Exploration
Another factor is experience. People who masturbate regularly, understand their own pleasure zones, and have tried a variety of stimulation techniques may be more likely to discover squirting through experimentation. Those who rely exclusively on external stimulation or have only had brief or penetrative-focused sex may never have had the opportunity to activate the internal response that leads to squirting.
This doesn’t mean you must masturbate to learn how to squirt but giving yourself the time and freedom to explore your own body can increase your chances of discovering what works for you.
Age, Hormones and Pelvic Health
Hormonal changes, ageing, and the state of your pelvic floor muscles can also influence your body’s ability to squirt. Some people may find it easier in their twenties, others in their forties or fifties. Pelvic floor tone, whether from Kegel exercises, childbirth recovery, or simply natural fitness plays a part in building pressure and releasing it.
If you’re struggling with bladder control or experience discomfort during sex, it’s worth speaking with a pelvic health specialist. Sometimes, underlying issues can make both orgasm and squirting more difficult or uncomfortable, but these can often be improved with professional guidance.
How to Know If You've Squirted?
Squirting can take you by surprise, especially the first time. Many people wonder whether what they experienced was actually squirting or something else. Was it wee? Was it just natural lubrication? Was it an intense orgasmic response? These are completely normal questions, and the confusion often stems from the fact that squirting is highly individual and rarely discussed with clear, non-judgemental language.
Common Signs of Squirting:
- A sudden release of warm fluid
- Fluid expelled from the urethra
- A strong internal pressure beforehand, similar to needing to urinate
- A feeling of relief or euphoria afterward
- Noticeable wetness on bedding, clothes, or towels
What If You Can't Squirt?
Let’s say you’ve tried the techniques, followed the guidance, and explored your body with curiosity but squirting still hasn’t happened. First things first: that’s completely okay. Not being able to squirt (or not being sure if you have) doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong, and it certainly doesn’t mean you’re missing out on the “right” kind of orgasm or pleasure. Squirting is just one of many possible sexual experiences, and not everyone’s body works the same way.
Key Things to Remember:
- Squirting isn't a requirement for great sex nor should it be the threshold
- Everyone's anatomy and arousal response is different
- There's no shame in not being able to squirt
- Pleasure, not performance, should be the goal
- You might squirt in the future, or never, and both are fine.
Let’s explore why it’s perfectly okay not to squirt and what you can focus on instead.
It Doesn't Define Your Sexual Experience
Some people treat squirting as a milestone or badge of honour, especially with how it’s portrayed in porn or social media. But this narrative puts pressure on people to perform sexually in a certain way. Real intimacy and pleasure aren’t about whether you can squirt they’re about how connected you feel to your own body and, if applicable, your partner.
You can experience deeply satisfying orgasms, intense connection, and ecstatic releases without ever squirting. Plenty of people never have, and they’re not missing anything they need to be complete.
You May Not Have the Same Physical Triggers
Every body is built differently. You might have less prominent Skene’s glands, different nerve distributions, or less sensitivity in the G-spot area. That’s not a flaw, just variation. Just as some people orgasm easily from clitoral stimulation and others don’t, some may squirt readily and others may never do so.
It’s like musical taste or appetite - unique, personal, and not for comparison.
You Can Still Enjoy G-spot Play and Internal Pleasure
Even if squirting never occurs, many people find G-spot stimulation incredibly pleasurable. The textures, rhythms, and sensations can be deeply satisfying in their own right, sometimes leading to blended orgasms or full-body pleasure that has nothing to do with fluid release.
You might enjoy:
- Curved G-spot toys
- Consistent, deep pressure during masturbation
- Slow, rhythmic internal massage with lube
- Combining internal and clitoral stimulation
Again, squirting doesn’t have to be the outcome... pleasure is the point.
You May Discover it Later... or Not At All
Many people report that they didn’t squirt until much later in life: after a particular partner, a change in technique, or simply more body confidence. Others experiment for years and never experience it. Both experiences are valid. Bodies change, arousal evolves, and what doesn’t happen now might happen in a different chapter of life, or not at all.
Think of squirting as one possible expression of your sexuality, not the destination. If it happens one day, fantastic. If it doesn’t, you’re still whole, worthy, and entirely capable of breathtaking sexual experiences.
At Skins, we have a wide range of sex toys and curved G-spot vibrators. We recommend:
Embracing Your Unique Pleasure Journey
Squirting is not the gold standard of pleasure, it’s just one of many expressions of arousal, response, and release. The most empowering thing you can do is shift your focus from trying to “achieve” a certain result to simply feeling good in your body. That’s the heart of good sex: presence, enjoyment, connection, and acceptance.
Whether you squirt or not, your body is incredible, your desires are valid, and your pleasure matters.
Read more: How to Have Multiple Orgasms?
