Better Oral, Better Sex: Essential Cunnilingus Tips You Need to Know
Oral sex plays a significant role in many intimate relationships. It offers a unique form of connection and pleasure that differs from other sexual activities. Engaging in oral sex can enhance intimacy, build trust, and provide immense satisfaction for both partners.
For many, giving and receiving oral pleasure deepens the emotional and physical bond between partners. It allows for exploration of each other's bodies in a way that fosters closeness and understanding. On the other hand, oral sex can serve as an alternative to penetrative sex, offering variety and catering to different preferences or situations.
Understanding the Importance of Oral Sex
Studies have shown that couples who incorporate oral sex into their sexual repertoire often report higher levels of sexual satisfaction. This could be attributed to the increased communication and willingness to explore each other's desires that often accompany the practice.
However, it's essential to acknowledge that comfort levels with oral sex can vary. Factors such as cultural background, personal experiences, and individual preferences play a role in how one perceives and enjoys oral activities. Open and honest communication with your partner about desires, boundaries, and comfort levels is crucial to ensure a mutually satisfying experience.
Incorporating oral sex into your intimate life can be a rewarding endeavor. By understanding its importance and approaching it with a sense of curiosity and respect, you can enhance the quality of your sexual relationship and deepen the connection with your partner.
Communication: The Foundation of Pleasurable Experiences
Effective communication is paramount when it comes to any sexual activity, and oral sex is no exception. Discussing preferences, boundaries, and desires with your partner ensures that both of you are comfortable and can fully enjoy the experience.
Begin by creating a safe and non-judgmental space where both partners feel at ease to express their thoughts and feelings. This can be achieved by setting aside dedicated time to talk, free from distractions, and approaching the conversation with empathy and openness.
Ask your partner about their likes and dislikes, and be willing to share your own. Questions like, "What do you enjoy most during oral sex?" or "Is there something new you'd like to try?" can open up the dialogue and lead to a deeper understanding of each other's desires.
In addition to verbal communication, pay attention to non-verbal cues during intimate moments. Body language, moans, and other reactions can provide valuable feedback about what feels good and what doesn't. Being attuned to these signals can enhance the experience and demonstrate attentiveness to your partner's needs.
By prioritising open and honest communication, you lay the groundwork for pleasurable and fulfilling oral experiences that cater to both partners' desires and comfort levels.
Vital Tips to Know Before You Begin
Prior to you taking the great plunge underneath, we just wanted to share a few tips that will be beneficial to remember:
- Make using condoms or dental dams a habit with a new partner. STIs can easily be passed on while engaging in oral sex. So it is always advised that you use these critical forms of protection until you've both been tested.
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Dealing with a shy partner. We've all been there, we've either been that shy person and/or experienced a shy partner. Whichever scenario you've found yourself in, there is nothing wrong with feeling a little shy. If your partner is shy, take the pressure off, give them a kiss, cuddle for a little while or add a little lube to your finger or a bullet vibrator and gently tease around the vulva.
- Take regular intervals. If you've ever given your partner extended oral sex whether that being to a penis or a vulva, you will be all too familiar with the occasional jaw ache. If this happens, it's best to take a break. However, you may opt to solely use your hands/fingers in the meantime to ensure that fiery energy continues blazing.
- Engage in maintaining eye contact. Exude your sexual confidence and prowess by locking in your partner by maintaining eye contact. This can become very sexy, very quick.
How to Give Oral Sex to a Vulva
1. Tease the area
Women and people with a vulva can take a while to get truly turned on so help them to build up that sexual tension.
If this is a new partner, then it is well-advised to take a strategic glance to evaluate their vulva, each are different. To start this, it would be best to spread their legs open with your hands, look them in the eyes and then look down.
Or maybe even kiss down their body starting with the nipples and ending at their inner thighs. You don't want to go too heavy handed to start with and dive in head first straight into the vulva - pun totally intended.... sorry, not sorry!
When you are at their inner thighs, blend your passionate kisses with some gentle strokes and paying them a compliment or two.
By engaging in light teasing you will inevitably stimulate their nerve endings and they'll begin to feel aroused, way before you go too heavy handed.
2. Don't go straight for the clit
Contrary to what you may believe, you want to start on the vulva's inner and outer lips. Explore the full mobility of your tongue as you begin to lick upwards to create a firm, focused pressure. Then throw in a little side to side action with the tip of your tongue as this will surely start to intensify the passion.
3. Now it's time to find the clit
Now you're starting to find your groove, let's send the clitoris an invite to the party.
You'll know what you're doing is right when your partner is becoming increasingly wet and letting off a few moans.
If you are not so sure what the clit looks like, essentially it's a pea-sized button that sits towards the top of the vulva and is hidden behind a little hood of skin. The clitoris will become less shy and come out to play the more your partner becomes arouses, this is because the clitoris swells up when its thousands of nerve endings become stimulated.
You can begin to stimulate the clit with a few slow swirling licks, then alternate this with some quick, flicks of the tongue. Now you can become inventive with the rest however, you'll quickly learn what your partner likes and dislikes but be sure to add some darting tongue action into the vaginal opening too.
Top tip: Learn the art of clitoral suction, women and people with a vulva absolutely love this blended into your routine. Don't worry too much about this until you've mastered the art of using your tongue. However, it will be a good one to practice to turn good sex into great sex!
4. Integrate your digits and toys
We all should strive to give our partners the best head that is truly possible, otherwise what is even the point?
But anyway... the use of your fingers and toys can really explode your love making session and turn it from "meh, it was alright!" to "WOW, that was f**king fantastic!".
So if you want to leave your partner feeling like they're on a cloud then I suggest you embrace using your fingers and/or toys.
During the act of sucking the clitoris, we recommend that you lube-up two fingers and gradually insert these into the vagina. Vaginal tightness can vary from person to person so be gentle.
At Skins, we have a wide selection of water based lubricants and silicone based lubricants. However, for oral sex, we recommend a good quality flavoured lube from our Tasty or Fruit range.
When you insert your fingers, curl these up into a hook and begin the "come-hither" motion. By doing this, you can start to stimulate the G-Spot and create true magic that they'll surely love.
However, if you would like to truly spice up oral sex, this would be the ideal time to introduce a sex toy while your head remains down below. Your choice of toys is limitless but we have a few vibrator recommendations...
- G-Spot Vibrators - A G-Spot vibrator can be a great tool to heighten orgasms while engaging in oral sex. Blend one of these into your routine. Our advice is to utilise the Skins Glee Spot or the Skins Wand to stimulate the G-Spot while your tongue and mouth are stimulating the clitoris.
- Clitoral Vibrators - A good quality clitoral vibrator like the Skins Rose Buddies collection or the Skins Scream Egg can be used to stimulate the clit while your fingers are reaching for your partner's G-Spot.
- Rabbit Vibrators - A rabbit vibrator can be a very good substitute if you needed to take a break from your pussy licking escapades. The Skins Bijou Bunny is a discreet option for this while the Skins Rabbit is a fantastic alternative.
Read more: How to Introduce Sex Toys Into Your Relationship
Enhancing Oral Sex with Extras
Oral sex can be even more exciting with the introduction of additional elements. Exploring different sensations, positions, and tools can elevate the experience and keep things fresh.
Flavoured Lubricants
We've already discussed the use of flavoured lube but incorporating flavoured lubricants can make oral sex more enjoyable for the giver by masking natural tastes and adding a fun twist. They come in a variety of options, from fruity to dessert-like flavours, making the experience more playful. Choose high-quality, body-safe lubricants that enhance pleasure without causing irritation.
Temperature Play
Temperature changes can heighten sensations during oral sex. Try sipping warm tea or sucking on an ice cube before engaging in oral play. The contrast between warm and cool sensations can add a new level of stimulation. Some lubricants also offer warming or cooling effects, providing a unique experience.
Trying Different Positions
Changing positions can make oral sex more comfortable and exciting. The classic lying-down position works well, but experimenting with sitting, standing, or kneeling positions can provide different angles and intensities. For example, lying on the edge of the bed while your partner kneels or standing in the shower can offer new experiences.
Sensory Play
Incorporating blindfolds or light restraints can enhance oral sex by intensifying sensations. When one sense is restricted, others become more sensitive, heightening the experience. Light bondage, such as hand restraints or silk ties, can add an element of anticipation and excitement.
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